Part 1: What Is Your Relationship with Food?

I felt God nudging me to teach on the topic entitled "What is Your Relationship with Food?" for the past few weeks. I feel a little bit like Moses when God asked him to go free the Israelites from Egypt since I don't feel qualified to teach about this. Nevertheless, I'm stepping out in faith, trusting God to lead me, and praying that lives will be transformed through this teaching.

I started the teaching last night. I introduced the ladies to the basic definition of relationship as defined by Webster's:

• the state of affairs existing between those having relations or dealings; relations being an aspect or quality that connects two or more things or parts as being or belonging or working together or as being the same kind (the relations of time and space).

These definitions clearly show that we need two or more objects in order for a relationship to exist. The objects may be people, animals, or non-living things. Ladies also agreed that we need a feeling or desire towards something, a connection or familiarity, and a two-way street in order for relationships to exist.

There is also a level of intimacy with relationships. I did a Bible study on friendships and found that a range of friendships exist. Acquaintances can be called friends just as your spouse can be your friend. The level of intimacy experienced from an acquaintance is much different than the level experienced with your spouse. Additionally, looking at the life of Jesus we see that he had different levels of intimacy with people too. He had a deeper level of relationship with the twelve disciples than with other people. Out of the twelve, He was more intimate and shared more things with three of them.

God created us since He desired to have a relationship with us. As a Father, God's purpose was to have a family, children to have a relationship with. Our primary focus in life should be on developing a personal relationship with God through Jesus.

A Bible study on Biblical womanhood also shows that God created women equal to men with a different focus. The women's focus is on relationships. This is interesting since the fall of Adam and Eve negatively impacted women's ability to have satisfying relationships the way that God originally designed. Could it be that women eat out of emotions because they are trying to fill a need that they are not getting met through their relationships or they are trying to stuff feelings associated with failed relationships down with food so that they don't have to face the feelings and deal with them? It certainly seems possible. This will be explored more as the class continues.

With respect to emotional eating, one participant suggested a pathway to freedom that involves us being real with God and each other about what our issues are. The pathway to freedom that she described reminded me of the 5-step pathway to freedom (ARISE) that God showed me several years ago. The 5-step pathway is based on Psalm 32:5-11.

1. A-Acknowledge: We admit the sin that was done to us and the sin that we committed as a result of the original sin done to us (Ps 32:5). In doing this, we face the pain associated with the original sin and the sin that we committed and allow God to heal our wounds.
2. R-Restore: As we allow God to heal us, He will restore us (Ps 32:6-7).
3. I-Instruct: God will guide us and instruct us in the way to go (Ps 32:8).
4. S-Surrender: We need to surrender and yield to the work of the Holy Spirit in our lives and don't be like the horse or mule that needs to be harnessed with a bit and bridle (Ps 32:9).
5. E-Exalt: We can exalt God for bringing us through and setting us free.

That concludes the first week of teaching. Next week we will be looking at God's view about food and His purpose for giving us food.